Once one of the most beloved stars of the F4 phenomenon from Meteor Garden (2001), Vanness Wu’s love life has taken center stage—this time, for all the wrong reasons.
According to Sina and ETtoday, the high-profile couple tied the knot in a luxurious private ceremony in Los Angeles in 2013 after years of an on-again, off-again relationship. Arissa, the daughter of a powerful media tycoon in Singapore, faced stiff opposition from her father but ultimately chose love over legacy. Unfortunately, their fairytale quickly turned into a cautionary tale.
Just nine months into their marriage, Arissa filed for separation and later published a scathing letter accusing Vanness of five major offenses that she claims destroyed their union:
- Absence during important holidays: He never returned home for family gatherings, even during Lunar New Year or Valentine’s Day.
- Serial flirtation: Arissa alleged he continued seeing other women despite being married.
- Financial neglect: She paid her own airfare to join him on trips, revealing an imbalance in their marital dynamic.
- Lack of accountability: Vanness reportedly never admitted fault during arguments.
- Public deception: He portrayed a loving marriage in the media while allegedly ignoring her in private.
“This marriage was a nightmare,” Arissa wrote. “I lived in deceit and emotional suppression. Vanness is deluded by his fame and looks. I regret realizing too late that I married a hypocrite.”
Friends close to the couple revealed that Arissa made every effort to maintain their marriage. She regularly traveled to Taiwan for reunions, only to be left alone as Vanness prioritized work and friends over family. One anecdote particularly stung the public: Vanness publicly promised to gift her something special for Valentine’s Day—yet not even a single flower arrived.
Despite Vanness’s denials, public sentiment has largely turned against him. After five years of ongoing legal back-and-forth and failed reconciliation attempts, the couple officially finalized their divorce in 2018, as per Singaporean law that requires three years of separation prior to divorce proceedings.
Reportedly, Vanness had filed for divorce three times, each time citing differing values and lack of emotional support from Arissa. But insiders suggest it was Arissa’s disappointment with his cold behavior and continued gaslighting that led her to sign the final papers.
Their turbulent journey—from destined lovers to bitter exes—has become one of the most talked-about celebrity divorce sagas in Asia.
Sources: kenh14