His comments went instantly viral.
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During a recent Weverse livestream, BTS’s RM opened up about societal expectations surrounding marriage and having children, especially the pressures many women face in today’s world.
His honest and reflective thoughts quickly caught the attention of Korean netizens, sparking intense praise for the idol. Many are even saying he should run for president in the future!
RM shared that he often feels people are being pushed into marriage by social and media expectations rather than personal choice.
When it comes to marriage, I think a lot of people feel pressured, both by reality and by society. Especially women, since there’s constant pressure from the media and people around them about having kids or other responsibilities. It feels like we’re all being pushed into a mold, but honestly, I just wish people could live life at their own pace. I don’t think there’s a single right answer.
From my point of view, if someone can’t handle being alone, then even if they get married, will that really fix things? Because when you’re married, there will still be moments when you want to be alone… that’s just human nature. So I think people who are comfortable being alone can also be good partners when they’re together with someone, and vice versa.
But choosing marriage as a way to escape loneliness… I’m not sure that’s the right approach.
— BTS’s RM
The BTS leader also discussed the idea of raising children, admitting he finds the thought difficult.
As for having kids I really don’t know. I already find it challenging enough to take care of myself, so raising another life… it’s not something that goes the way you want it to. Kids have their own personalities. When I think about how much trouble I gave my parents growing up, I can’t help but think, “What if I have a kid like me?” Ugh, just imagining it… I’d love them, sure, but it’d be tough.
There’s no right answer to any of this. People who are married can only speak from the perspective of someone who’s married, and people who aren’t married can only speak from their own experience, and neither side truly understands the other. So, I think we should just take the stories and experiences of people around us as what they are, their experiences.
In a way, I think our generation, those of us born in the ’90s, are the first in Korea to really see marriage as an option. And because of that, I believe we should all just follow our own choices.
— BTS’s RM
🐨 결혼에 대해서 쫒기고 현실적인 부분도 있고 특히 여성분들은 아이나 여러가지 문제로 사회나 미디어가 계속 프레셔를 주는거 같은데 우리한테 압박을 주는거 같은데 그냥 자기 쪼대로 살았으면 좋겠어요. 정답은 없는거 같아요. 그냥 제가 생각했을 때 결국 혼자있는 시간을 이렇게 잘 못견디면… pic.twitter.com/akqyfeXBna
— 김무원 (@jooniefighting) October 5, 2025
Netizens quickly responded to his words, with many praising his maturity and honesty.
- “When he gets older, he should just run for president. That’s definitely the right path for him.”
- “Yeah, same here. It’s already hard enough just taking care of myself; getting married and having kids would be even harder.”
- “Seriously. Getting married just because you’re lonely is so dangerous.”
- “That’s so cool.”
- “As expected of a true leader.”
